A lot of women I speak to are feeling stuck. Not because life’s boring. Not because they don’t know what they want. But because they’re waiting. Waiting for friends to be ready. Waiting for their partner to make up his mind. Waiting for company. Waiting for everyone to be on the same page before they start living.
Let me be honest with you:
Waiting is a trap.
And if you’re not careful, you’ll wake up in the same place five years from now, even 15 years from now! I see and hear it everyday…
You don’t need your best friend to say yes.
You don’t need your girls to be on board.
You don’t need your man to start.
You just need to go anyway.
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The confidence comes from motion:
→ I started going to networking events
Because I want to scale my business, & I had to accept — not all my friends have businesses, let alone ones they’re trying to grow.
So I started going by myself, & that’s where I’ve met people who’ve taught me things, introduced me to others, booked me, supported me — even just been someone to talk business with.
→ I started turning shopping trips into solo days
Not just for errands, but time out for me. Sometimes on the train journey I’d be thinking, reflecting, having the space to breathe. Chatting to stylists, bumping into fashion girlies, even meeting clients or women doing what I do.
It’s a reset! Sometimes, I’ll purposely visit salons or beauty spaces based in the kinds of affluent areas I’d love to have my own studio in one day — both here and abroad. Not to work in them, but to feel the standard. To see how they move. It’s not just inspiration — it’s vision-building for where I’m headed.
→ I started going out for lunch alone
Not just locally, but in places I want to spend more time in. Sometimes I go to restaurants I’ve been meaning to try but never had the right “occasion.” I’ve made connections just by sitting there. As a businesswoman, that visibility matters — and so does knowing you’re comfortable in your own company.
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I’ve had clients tell me about solo trips they finally took — and never came back the same. Some met their partners. Some found peace. Some got a whole new lease of life. It’s something I hope to do one day too, because I know when I go, I’ll come back clearer, lighter, more me…
Other clients have tried simple things — joining a run club, booking a Pilates class — and found themselves meeting people who actually get it.
Women on the same journey.
Men who share the same values.
People who are living with purpose.
A friend of mine recently joined her workplace Bible study group — something she didn’t even know existed. She only found out about it because she went into the office one day, had lunch in the staff restaurant, and had a conversation that opened a new door. Sometimes it really is just about showing up.
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We love to say, “No one sees each other anymore, everyone’s working from home.” But I’ve noticed a difference. Because I’m in a service-based industry, I actually have to be at the studio, meeting people face-to-face. I speak to women from all walks of life, every single day & the difference between the ones who are out there, living life intentionally — and the ones stuck in the “rut race”, doing the same thing day in, day out — it’s undeniable.
The lease of life that one group has versus the other? A blind person could see it. It makes all the difference. So this is your reminder:
We’ve got to live intentionally!
And that means fulfilling your own desires on purpose — because no one’s going to do it for you.
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Solo Confidence Mini-Kit?
• Journal Prompt:
If I wasn’t waiting for anyone, what would I go and do this week?
• Affirmation:
I move in my own timing, and it’s always right.
• Your next move:
Go somewhere you’ve been putting off.
That lunch. That event. That Pilates class.
Go anyway.
Let your confidence lead, and let the rest surprise you!
Go be seen, Go be heard, Go be Her!
Donita Boateng 🖤
Aesthetician, Eyebrow artist, Beauty in motion. Woman doing it anyway!
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