Picture this: you’re standing at the altar, trying to ignore that little voice in your head saying, “Are you sure about this?” But hey, it’s fine, right? Society says it’s time, your biological clock is ticking, and if you don’t slap a ring on it soon, you might just implode. So, you go for it. No biggie, just a lifetime commitment. Flash forward 40+ years, stuck with the wrong person because everyone else said it was the right thing to do. Sounds like a rom-com gone terribly wrong, right? Spoiler: It’s not a fairy tale. It’s a bad reality show we somehow all agreed to star in.
A Real Conversation with Whitney
So, here’s the thing. Recently, I brought up the whole “rushing into marriage” topic with my friend and client, Whitney. You know, casually mentioned how I hear these stories all the time from my clients—women who feel pressured to marry because "time’s running out" or whatever—and Whitney’s response? Total agreement. She jumped right in and shared how she married young for all the wrong reasons: family pressure, a pregnancy, and trying to fill an emotional void. It wasn’t pretty—she was miserable, stuck in a bad marriage that ended with a terrible breakup. Like so many others, she learned the hard way that rushing into a relationship can lead to a massive heartbreak that costs you your peace of mind and sanity. Fast forward, and Whitney's in a much better place now—happily remarried, thriving in her 30s, and doing it for herself, not because someone set a countdown timer. She also admitted she wished back then it was normal to vent these thoughts instead of suffering through them secretly. Who knew we were all going through the same thing in silence, right?
The Pressure of Time
Listen, as an aesthetician, I talk to women of all ages every day, and let me tell you—this pressure to “settle down” by a certain age? It’s real. And it’s everywhere. Whether you're 25, 30, or 40, someone will always make you feel like you’re running out of time to find “the one.” And guess what? That fear? It’s the most overrated thing ever. Rushing into marriage because you're scared of being single? Bad move. Marriage isn’t a damn to-do list, it’s a commitment. So stop freaking out because you’re not married by 30—there’s no expiration date on your love life.
It’s About Readiness, Not Timing
Look, let’s be honest: We all change a ton between 21 and 35. I mean, the person you were at 21? Might as well be a stranger. That’s why so many marriages before 30 end in disaster. You’re still figuring out who you are, let alone who you want to marry. The trick is, if you wait until you actually know yourself (shocking, right?), you’ll be in a much stronger relationship. So, for the love of all things sensible, stop marrying out of fear or because of some imaginary deadline. Love isn’t a race.
The Real Pandemic
The real pandemic isn’t being single. Nope. It’s the pressure to marry for all the wrong reasons—because society says you’re behind, or your mom’s dropping not-so-subtle hints about grandkids. Marriage isn’t a sprint to a fairy tale—it’s more of a slow burn. And honestly? It’s way better that way.
For me? I’m still figuring it out. I’m not rushing into anything, because I believe in love—the real kind. The kind where you go in for all the right reasons, with the right person. And honestly, I believe that fairy tale is totally achievable. I know a lot of you ladies feel the same. So let’s take our time and do it right. When it’s time, it’ll be worth it.
With love (and no rush),
Doni xx
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