The Beauty of Boundaries…
A Grown Woman’s Reminder!
It’s funny how certain conversations have a way of following you. Over the last few weeks, the topic of boundaries has been showing up everywhere — in the studio with my clients, during casual chats with friends — and most recently, over dinner with my sister and a good friend this past weekend.
We were catching up — good food, a couple of drinks — and what started as light conversation quickly turned into something deeper. We found ourselves talking about boundaries. Where we’ve lacked them, where we’ve learnt to put them in place, and how different life feels when you start showing up for yourself properly.
And it stayed with me. I carried that conversation straight back into the studio this week. The same topic came up again and again with my clients. It’s no coincidence — I think so many of us, especially as women in our 30s, 40s and beyond, are finally learning how to set boundaries. And more importantly, we’re seeing the difference it makes.
But let’s be honest — part of this journey is also admitting where we’ve been getting in our own way.
We overextend ourselves. We hold on to potential. We stay in situations that drain us. And then we wonder why we’re exhausted, frustrated, or quietly resentful.
But here’s the truth: no one is coming to save you.
Your time, your peace, your energy — they are your responsibility.
We’re the adults now — and as much as we might joke about still figuring things out, there comes a point where we have to move with clarity, not wishful thinking.
Stop romanticising situations that aren’t serving you.
See things for what they are — not what you hope they could be.
And if you’re struggling to get that clarity?
Sometimes, you’ve got to strip it back to the basics. The truth is always simple, even when it’s uncomfortable.
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The Numbers Speak for Themselves
This isn’t just a personal conversation — it’s a much wider reality.
A 2023 YouGov survey revealed that 61% of women in the UK find it hard to set clear boundaries in romantic relationships. 67% admitted they’ve stayed in situations longer than they should have, simply to avoid seeming “difficult” or “too much.”
And the men? Only 35% say they struggle with boundaries. Most feel confident saying no and walking away from what doesn’t serve them — no explanation needed.
It highlights something many of us already know deep down:
We’ve been conditioned to overthink, to hold on, to hope. But avoiding the hard conversations, ignoring the red flags, and neglecting our standards only leaves us drained and disappointed.
But things are changing — and I see that every day in the studio.
Women are learning to stand firm in who they are and what they deserve.
✔ We’re realising that being agreeable or “easy-going” isn’t always a strength.
✔ We’re learning to say no, without overexplaining ourselves.
✔ We’re looking at situations for what they are, not through the lens of potential.
It’s empowering. It’s necessary. And yes — it’s attractive.
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Boundaries: The Foundation of Real Confidence
The beautiful thing about boundaries is that they don’t make you harsh or unapproachable — they make you clear, self-assured, and respected.
You can still be soft. Still be romantic. Still be feminine. But all of that lands differently when it’s wrapped in standards and self-respect. That’s when everything — from friendships to love — starts to feel aligned.
Boundaries protect your energy. They give you clarity.
And most importantly, they stop the resentment before it starts.
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A Gentle Reminder — Boundaries Are Self-Respect in Action
Yes, I can enhance your brows, your skin, your natural beauty — but your real glow-up?
It starts with how you carry yourself.
With the standards you uphold.
With the boundaries you refuse to compromise.
And believe me — that kind of confidence looks good on you!
So protect your peace. Honour your standards. And never let blurred lines cloud your vision.
Donita Boateng
Your Aesthetician & Quiet Boundaries Reminder
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July Top Fives
It’s not just about boundaries, ladies — it’s about committing to the little things that make summer feel elevated. Start with these.
• Listen to some good music! My song of the month is R&B Throwback: “Rock the Boat” – Aaliyah
Smooth, sexy, and still undefeated — the ultimate summer soundtrack giving you all the feels.
• Fashion Pick: White Louboutin Mules (Me Dolly 100mm)
The perfect mix of sass and sophistication — still on my wish list because they never have my size! Tall girl problems…
• Beauty Treatment: Brow Lamination by DBrowlyfe (aka me)
That “rolled out of bed ready” brow look — fluffy, lifted, and effortless all summer long.
• Product of the Month: Laura Mercier Translucent Setting Powder – Medium Deep
The glow-up essential — sets your skin, adds warmth, and keeps your makeup looking fresh, never heavy.
• Program of the Month: No binge-watching. No couch commitment. Even with a man — summer’s for new faces, new places, and making memories outside.